Restore Damaged Relationships

---

Do you have a damaged relationship that you have been thinking about lately? Maybe you had a huge disagreement or a falling out over something that now seems small?  Then you are in the right place to take the next steps to heal this relationship.

How long has this falling out been?  Have you allowed your psychological wounds to heal?  

Have you been able to vent and validate your hurt feelings with a trusted individual?  

The ego is a projection of how we want people to see us.  Are you still protecting your ego around this damaged relationship?  Are you ready to face your fear of the unpredictability of whether this other party will accept or reject you?

Still, figuring out who is to blame?  Blaming brings back a fighting stance.  No one is perfect and you don't want to "stir the pot again".  

Don't be afraid to be the first to reach out.  Getting over this hump will help initiate contact.  What are your fears in doing this?

Before you utter a word, visualize yourself forgiving them.  Envision their misdeeds dissolving into nothingness.  Have a mindset visualized.

Saying you are sorry eases their pain.  Are you ready to give a peace offering?  

"Why" is a three-letter word that can cause more damage than good.  You will back them into a corner.   Using "I" statements is important here.

Don't expect an apology or "fish" for feedback.  It's possible they may never be sorry about the role they placed in the conflict.  If they truly want to restore the relationship, they will come around to an explanation that works for them.

This is about creating peace.  If it does not end up in an improved situation, then you will have taken the initiative to free yourself to go from Regret 2 Relief.